Don’t Give Advice

Don’t give advice.  Just don’t do it.  I know you want to, but just stop it.

It took me a long time to figure this out.  Once I’d spent a great deal of time thinking about this, and deciding the best thing to do is to NOT give advice, I still found myself giving advice.

I find it difficult to NOT give advice.

After trying hard for 2 years now, I’m starting to NOT give advice.  But I’m still slipping up and offering advice.  This is a difficult habit to change.

Why You Should NOT Give Advice:

The main reason you should not give advice is because NO ONE ASKED YOU FOR ADVICE.

I found that it’s not just me that wants to give advice to everyone, even though no one asks for it, it’s almost everyone I know that has this same problem.  People are always giving advice to other people, even though they weren’t asked to give advice in the first place.

The problem starts with, most of the time the person who is talking (giving the advice), doesn’t realize what they are doing.  They don’t realize that they are giving advice.  They are just giving their opinion of what someone else should do.

It seems like a built in human thing to do.  It’s natural.  I think it’s a weakness.  Giving (unwanted and un-asked for) advice is a natural weakness.

You see, no one ever asks you for your advice.  No one is asking for your opinion.  But we feel compelled to give it anyway.  We think we’re helping the person that we are giving advice to, but we’re probably just feeding our need to feel good about ourselves.

It is so freaking hard to keep my mouth shut.  It’s so easy for me to tell someone what to do.

And our fellow humans don’t make this any easier on us to not give advice, because sometimes people do ask for your opinion.  Sometimes people do ask for advice.

It’s rare, but this does happen.

And here’s why this just makes the problem harder.

The vast majority of the times that someone is asking for advice, they are not really asking for advice.  They’re really just asking you to tell them everything is ok.  They’re really asking you to help justify that they made the right decision.  Especially if they just made a bad decision.

I’m sure if you think about this, you’ll recall many conversations in your life where you’ve experienced this.

The best example of this that I can think of is with MONEY.  Let me explain.  Some of my friends know that I have an interest in finance, saving, and investing money.  I’ve gotten decent at investing my own savings.

One of my friends asked me what they should do with some of their money.  So what did I do?  I fucked up and gave advice.

You see, my friend wasn’t really asking for advice on how to save or invest money.  My friend wanted me to produce magic.

https://imgur.com/YsbKHg1

My friend wanted me to say a few words and magically the money that he had saved would magically turn into a lot more money.  I think specifically the question was about which stock is a good stock to buy.  This is a black hole question and one to always avoid.  Why?  The reason is because there is no right answer, only wrong answers.

Investing money is intensely personal.  Everyone is different and everyone has to learn this skill on their own.  There are 186 ways to make money investing and over 1,000,000 ways to lose it.  Most “investors” lose money.

My friend didn’t really want to know what stock to buy, he wanted me to do magic.  How would I know what stock will go up or down?  And how would I know what stock would go up or down in a specific period of time?  A stock can be up one day and down the next.

Investing is intensely personal.  2 people can buy the same stock at the same time and 1 person can make money and the other loose money.  It all depends on psychology.  If you don’t know what your doing, if you don’t have a plan before you ever buy a stock, then you’re screwed.

Now, if my friend really wanted to learn how to make money investing in stocks, he would have asked me, “How do I learn to make good decisions?” or “How do I learn about emotions and psychology?” or “How can I learn how to get better at learning?”

I could have recommended books like “The Art of Learning” by Josh Waitzkin or “What I Learned Losing a Million Dollars” by Jim Paul, or any of Warren Buffett’s Annual Letter to Shareholders.  Best to just go ahead and read all of Buffett’s Annual Letters.

What my friend really said was, “Hey, can you magically fix my savings?”

This doesn’t just happen with money.  This happens almost every time you are asked for your opinion or to give advice.  Big red flags are if someone asks you about health, weightlifting/building strength, building a business, dating, politics, earning more money, writing, and basically anything related to performing better at a skill.

You’ll recognize these questions with experience.

Here’s how you’ll know they are not really asking for your advice: Now matter what you tell them, they are not going to do it.

They weren’t asking for your advice or opinion.  They were asking you to make them feel better or justify they decision they already made.

It’s crazy but this is reality.

Now, there are a few times in your life where someone will genuinely ask for your advice.  Here’s how to tell.  Their actions will back up their words.

Here’s an example.  I’m good at snow skiing.  If I meet someone that is a beginner at skiing and they are trying to get better, I’ll pay attention to them.  If I see that they are consistently out there trying to improve, I will notice.  If this beginner skier asks me how they can improve their turns or how they can fall down less or move better on steep terrain, then I’ll try to help them out.

Here’s the catch, you can’t give them advice unless they ask for it first.  Also, and this is just as important, you need to see that they take action on your advice.  They have to apply your advice.  Even if it doesn’t work for them, they have to try to do what you recommended.

Actions are important.  Watch what people do.  That will show you what they’re really thinking.  Words are just noise.

Now I just fucked up because I just gave you, dear reader, advice.

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It’s Not a Ski Vacation, it’s an Adventure

skiing Lake Tahoe

Kirkwood Ski Resort

I just arrived back in North Carolina from spending 2 1/2 weeks in Nevada and California.

I go to Lake Tahoe for 2 weeks, then head down to Napa Valley for 2 days, then fly home to North Carolina.  I take this same trip every year in the second half of March.

This is a very important trip to me.  I take it seriously.  Yes, I go off and visit some of the most beautiful places in the world, but I don’t treat it like a vacation.  I treat it like an adventure.  And all good adventures take a fair amount of work and preparation.

You might disagree and think that an extended trip to visit world class ski areas and vineyards is a the definition of an epic vacation.  But, it’s really just me visiting my old homes.

You see, I lived for 3 years in South Lake Tahoe, specifically, I lived on the Nevada side of South Lake in Zephyr Cove, Nevada.  And I also lived in the town of Napa for 6 years.  During my time in Napa, I’d drive up to Tahoe every weekend for 6 months of the winter and spring to go skiing.

I’ve been fortunate to have lived in some of the world’s great vacation destinations.

Because I’ve so much history in these areas, I put in the proper amount of work in preparation for this trip.  Since most of my time on this trip is dedicated to snow skiing, I start training for the trip as soon as it ends.  For this years trip, I started weight training the day after I left in 2018.

Here’s my first deadlift session after last years trip:

Why do I work so hard for a vacation? 

Well, it’s not a vacation, it’s adventure, and if you want to have a great adventure, you need to be prepared.  I have a lifetime ski pass to Kirkwood, CA.  It is a big crazy mountain with challenging and potentially dangerous terrain.  I also like to climb up and ski down mountains in the Lake Tahoe area, as well as other mountains on the East Side of the Sierra Nevada.  These mountains are not ski areas, they are just big mountains.  It takes a lot of work to get up and ski down these mountains, safely.

To navigate these mountains takes skill, muscle, and endurance.  So I train all-year-long.  Seriously.

You might ask, “Why?”  Good question.

I’m drawn to skiing in a  way that is out of my control.  I think about skiing everyday of my life, even those hot sticky days in the middle of the North Carolina summer.  And not just any type of skiing, I dream about the fun, adventurous, challenging type of skiing.

I work to build and maintain strength all year long.  I also have the challenge of living at sea level.  It’s much harder to perform athletically at 6,000 – 11,000 feet, where most of my skiing happens.

Also, I like to ski with friends, for both enjoyment and safety.  All my friends are better riders than I am.  And all of them live at altitude and ski regularly.  I also have many friends on the Kirkwood Ski Patrol (I highly recommend following @kirkwoodrescueavalanchedogs on Instagram).  As you can imagine, the Kirkwood Ski Patrol is filled with talented skiers.  If I want to keep up with these folks and not seem like a complete tourist, then I have to work extra hard, just to have somewhat acceptable “on mountain” abilities.

So for 11 1/2 months of the year, I put in the work.  This is a way of life for me now.  I’m grateful for this trip.  I value this experience so much, that I’m willing to put in the work to make sure my body can handle it.  This is also how I want to live for the rest of my life.  Constantly putting in the work, to be ready at any moment for adventure.

But, there is only so much that I can do.  There is no substitute for “mountain fitness”.  There is nothing I’ve ever found that can replicate how your muscles are strained and activated from the odd bumps, angles, and accelerating and decelerating that comes from snow skiing.

The first 2 days of my trip are always the same.  I struggle.

The first day on skis I focus on not getting hurt.  I usually try to get as many runs and turns in as I can.  This wakes up my muscles or activates my muscle memory, and lets my body know what will be required of it for the next 2 weeks.  I end the day tired and in desperate need of a couch and a beer.

The second day on skis is usually similar to the first, except I try to work harder.  This year, I hiked up the 99 Steps on the backside of Kirkwood.  It’s about a 20 minute hike to the top of the mountain.  I do this hike, not because of the awesome skiing or the views.  The views are great, the skiing is ok.  The real reason I do this hike is for fitness and exercise.  And again to let my body know that there will be more of this work in the coming days. strength

K2 backcountry snow skis

Hiking 99 Steps at Kirkwood

On this trip, on the second day, I randomly found my friend Isaac, and his fiance Geneva, at the top of Chair 10, also known as The Wall, at the top of Kirkwood.  It was great to see Isaac and Geneva.  I stay in touch with him and try to visit on every single one of these trips.

Isaac and Greg were the first ski patrolers (after Chewy the avalanche rescue dog) to find me when I was caught in the avalanche.  It’s important to me to spend time with folks like Isaac and Greg when I’m in town.

I ran into Isaac and Geneva on what I thought was going to be my last run of the day.  But, since I ran into my friends, I wanted to ski some runs with them.  Both Isaac and Geneva are better skiers than I am.  It was difficult to keep up with them.  After 3 runs, my legs were weak and my turns were wobbly.  This is a good recipe for injury.

I told Isaac and Geneva, “My legs are so tired I can’t see straight.”  We said our goodbyes and I headed for the car.

Again, I end the day tired and in desperate need of a couch and a beer and as many calories as I can stuff in my face before passing out.

By the 3rd day, I’m pretty much good to go.  The first 2 days are about getting acclimated to the altitude, drinking tons of water, and waking up my muscles.  Then, I’m ready as I’ll get.

I skied for all 16 days I was in Tahoe.

At the beginning of my trip, one of the Kirkwood patrolers asked me what I was I was going to do for my 2 weeks in town.  I said I was going to ski, everyday.

Ski everyday if the weather permits.  I’m there for the skiing.

I was having dinner at bbq joint in South Lake with my buddy Brandon.  I told him about the skiing conditions at Kirkwood and he asked me if I’d been chasing any Cougars.

“Ha! No.”, I replied.

I wake up early, ski till I’m tired, and then go back to my buddy Mike’s house, open a beer, and start stuffing calories.  There are no women in that routine.

I’m all for chasing women, but I can do that anywhere.  I can only ski the goods, when I’m in Tahoe.  So no, there were no Cougars.  In the mountains where I hangout, you mostly see sweaty hairy dudes.  Not pretty.

Then, as always, my time was up.  I’d skied 16 days in a row.  No injuries thank goodness.  But, I never know.  Injuries have happened before and will likely happen again.

This is another reason for the continuous strength training.  The muscle will protect you, and help you recover faster from injury.  It gives you a “margin of safety.”

Skiing, and Adventure, motivate me to push myself all year long.  If I want to have a good time in the mountains, I need to train and build strength to travel in the mountains.

If I want to spend time with my friends who are all great riders, then I need to put in the work to keep up with them.

If I don’t, then I’m just like any tourist that flies in, skies an hour or so, goes to the bar to get a few drinks and just looks at the mountains.  Then they get off work and look for a good apres ski scene.  Then they look for a party at night.  Then they wake up hung over and still don’t have energy to ski anything fun.

Fuck that shit.  That’s not what I’m into.  That’s not what I’ve been dreaming about since I was a little kid.  NO.

I’ve been dreaming about ski adventures.  I’ve been dreaming about skiing what I’d look at the posters on my wall of Scot Schmidt, Glen Plake, and Doug Coombs skiing.

If I want to follow in the footstep of my heroes, if I want to ski the dream, then I have to put in the work.  I’m willing to put in the work all year round just for a short 2 week window of adventure.

It is always worth it.

 

 

 

2013 Seghesio Vineyards Sangiovese that I dug up from my cold dirt cellar.

I went into the basement.

It’s not fancy.  I have to go outside the house.

A twist of the lock and the thin bare door opens. There are no stairs, just a small step ladder with some pieces of wood shoved under some of the legs to keep it stable.

Sketchy.

The floor is b…  There is no floor.  It’s under the house.  There is dirt.  It’s a dirt floor.  There is a light but it struggles.  My wines are in various card board boxes in the corner.

It is not insulated.  It stays damp and cold down here.  Even in the summer.

The wine is happy.

As I search through the boxes I have the same old problem.  The problem hate.  And love even more.  I have no cheap wines.  I have no average wines.

I’m too poor and can’t afford to purchase those at the grocery store.

Years of love and working in Napa Valley have left me with my favorite problem: I don’t have any wine that’s ok to drink by myself, in the middle of the week.  My stash is mostly just great Napa Cab’s, some with age, and a few great zinfandels from Seghesio.

Not really wine you should drink by yourself.  But, life is tough.

After searching, I pulled the 2013 Seghesio Sangiovese (if you like great wine go here: http://www.seghesio.com/) .  This is a wine I definitely shouldn’t drink by myself.  This is a wine I should share with friends that want to learn more about wine.

Why?

Because Sangiovese, the great Italian grape that is the foundation of Chianti, has not done well in California and North America in both popularity and quality.

This Seghesio example, is the exception.  In terms of quality.  This is a wonderful wine.

I should drink this with my friends that don’t have access to wines like this because I could tell them that Seghesio is an old Italian family that has been making wine in Sonoma County for 150 years.

I could tell folks that this is a special wine because it was grown in a harsh environment.  You see, sangiovese is quite a vigorous grape and if it’s grown in happy fertile soils, the grapes will grow too big, the wines will taste green.  Not what you want in a silky red wine.

I don’t know the exact vineyards these grapes came from.  But, I’ve been to Seghesio’s  rocky, steep, epic Rattlesnake Vineyard.  This is the home where Venom is grown.  Venom is the best of the best Seghesio sangiovese.  It’s a beautiful wine.  If it was a cabernet sauvignon, it would cost at least $100 a bottle more.

Anyway, Rattlesnake Vineyard is a steep rocky hillside.  I can’t believe it’s a vineyard.  It’s the perfect place to grow sangiovese.  The soil retains no water.  The summer time temperatures scorch the earth.  The angle of the slope catching the maximum hours of the summer time rays.  Nothing else grows or lives there.  Except rattlesnakes.

The perfect place to tame that Sangiovese grape.

So that’s the home of Venom.  This wine is not Venom.  But, I’d wager that some of the grapes that didn’t make the cut for Venom, made it into this wine.  And any sensible place to grow sangiovese is going to be pretty rough.

You have to put this grape near death, for it to feel the need to produce the highest quality offspring, which a skilled winemaker can turn into… something to write about.

P.S. Who remembers Niebaum-Coppola?

 

What is up folks? Long time no see. I’m back!

It’s been a long time, since I left you.

I’d been avoiding my website for several years.  I didn’t know what to think of it.

I’d intentionally not type in the url bar bruceworkinprogress.com.  Then I felt bad I neglected this site, so I didn’t check on it some more.  I wasn’t even sure if I still have the domain name (I need to check about renewing this).

Why did I neglect this site?  And why am I back?

Well, I started this site as a way to help me write more and therefor write better.  I was doing this because I wrote a book about getting crushed by an avalanche.  I eventually finished the manuscript, I think it was somewhere in the neighborhood of 175,000 words, give or take.

The book was terrible because I didn’t know what I was doing and I definitely didn’t follow the “hero’s journey” which is the basic outline every story follows.

Anyway, I put a lot of time and effort into the “book” manuscript, did the best I could, sort of, then saved it to a hard drive.  Then forgot about it as well as this website.

What has happened in the meantime:

When I started this website, I had no idea what I was doing.  I could write an email and barely compose a tweet.  I had my neighbor help me set up this website.  She basically did it for me.

I bought the domain, then hosted it on WordPress.com because it was the lowest cost way to do things.

When I stopped writing, I started a pressure washing business for the sole purpose of writing direct response ad copy.  I wanted to write copy, but I couldn’t get anyone to hire me to write copy because I had no experience (this sounds familiar, right?), so I was looking at my pressure washer and I thought, hell, I’ll make some flyers and mail them and see if I can get some work.

Well that worked, then the next thing I knew I had a full time business on my hands.  Problem was I wasn’t writing much copy, because of all the other aspects of the business.  I was a full time, one man show.  It was a lot of work.

In the process of learning how to market my pressure washing business, I started learning search engine optimization.  When I started pressure washing, I didn’t have a website.

After a while the SEO was going so well, I started doing it for friends and family to help their businesses.  Since I never wanted to be a pressure washer in the first place, I quit and started an SEO agency, basically just doing for clients what I’d done for myself.  If you find that stuff interesting you can google “Determined Solutions SEO” and you’ll see my website.

Long story short, now I’m really good with websites, especially WordPress, which is what bruceworkinprogress.com is.  I’m not a  web designer, so making a website look pretty isn’t my strong suit, but I know some stuff.

When I started this website, I new nothing.  I couldn’t find my website in Google and I wondered why the hell not?  Well, the bruceworkinprogress.com wasn’t “Indexed” in Google.  If you are not in Google’s index, the you can’t be found it Google.

And of course I had no idea how to get indexed in Google.

The only way folks saw my site is from this being a WordPress.com site and it would but me in some category or something on WordPress that folks could find.  And I’m grateful for that because I’d get excited when someone would read my stuff and leave a comment.

What the Future Holds:

So I finally checked this website last night, and I saw that it was still up.  Yea!

Then I saw that not only was it indexed in Google, almost all of my articles were indexed.  I had a lot of content in Google.

Because I work in SEO, my wheels started turning instantly.  The possibilities were flooding in.

So here’s the thing.  I’m going to build this site out a bit.  It will still be my personal blog, so I’ll say shit on here that I won’t say on my more professional locations online.  I’ll still be focused on my favorite topics like Adversity, health, mindset, reading, and now search engine optimization.

Right now the site is still on WordPress.com, that’s why you see ads on my site.  All those ads are because I’m not paying for hosting.  All that ad money goes to WordPress.  Zero goes to me.   Just a head’s up.

I’ll be moving this website off WordPress.com, to it’s own hosting.  Then the ads will stop.  Of course, I’ll be optimizing this website for search.  But I’ll just be focusing on the “on-page” SEO.  I won’t be building links.

Here’s how many links have been built to this site in 5 years:

Bruceworkinprogress.com

See? Basically no backlinks.

This is how I see the internet now.  I look at every website as a business.  I’m a builder.  I build stuff online.  So of course I’m going to start building this site out.

Right now it’s structure is complete shit.

So am I just going to start writing sales pitches for every article?

Don’t worry, I’m not going to overwhelm you with marketing.

But I will, if I come across something that is interesting, write about it and there will be occasional affiliate links at some point.  An affiliate link just means that if you buy something through my link, then I get a small percentage of the sale, but it doesn’t cost you any extra money at all.

That way, this site can generate enough money to pay for itself.  Right now I have no idea what I’d promote, but if I come across something that makes sense, then I’d be ok with that.

Also, this is obviously not going to be my full time job.  Just a hobby.  My full time job is my digital marketing agency, Determined Solutions, which has nothing to do with this blog.

Also, this blog is horrible for SEO.  Why?

Google likes sites to have a niche.  What niche is bruceworkinprogress?  It could be anything.  And I like to write about my interests and hobbies like skiing, health, fasting, cooking, weight lifting, and SEO.  None of this stuff is related to the same niche.

My stuff won’t rank well on search.  But, it can still get traffic from social media, so if something interests you, I’d be grateful for a share, a like, a tweet, etc.

If I was bruceplumbing.com and I talked about plumbing and pipes and water and shit like that (see what I did there?), then yes, I could rank this site for plumbing related terms, and make money from it.  It would all be in the same niche.

SEO will not be my focus on this site.

I will explore my thoughts, my writing skills, and ways to add value to my readers.

So, In Conclusion:

I’m back.  I’ll be putting out content.  But this is a hobby and I’m busy, so it won’t be a ton.  At least at first.

My first tasks will be to move this site off WordPress.com.  Don’t worry, you, the reader, won’t be able to tell, except that the ads will go away once I have my own hosting.

Then I’ll be working on the structure of the website to optimize it for search engines.  I will keep this look of this site simple by using a free WordPress theme.

And that’s about it.  After that, who knows?

If you want, you can say hello to me on Instagram and Twitter (see the embeds below?  I had no idea how to do that last time I wrote on this site.)  And if you leave a comment here on the website, I’ll respond.:

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I don’t know shit about Adversity.

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Adversity

What is adversity?

I thought I knew.

Getting crushed by an avalanche gained me a ticket into the Survivors Club. The snow broke my ribs, collapsed my lung, broke every bone in my face, including the ones I didn’t know existed behind my eyeballs, severed my ACL and left me spilling blood and gasping for air on the side of a mountain.

I thought I knew what adversity was because of the searing pain I experienced. It felt like someone was stabbing me in the back every time I hit a bump while being carried in the rescue sled down mountain.

I thought I knew about hard times because the ambulance ride took 3 ½ hours to get to the hospital. I was spitting blood all over the place, bitching, moaning, crying, and begging for random strangers to save my life.

I thought I knew about adversity because of waking up in the hospital on life support. I was unable to speak because I had a hole with a tube sticking down my throat and into my lung. My jaw was wired shut and I couldn’t scream out for help.

Three facial surgeries in seven days left eight titanium plates in my face.
Several months and several surgeries later I found myself battling depression, anger, and the worst of all—self pity.

All this led me to believe that I knew something about adversity. That I was something of an expert on the topic.

Now I don’t think I know shit about adversity.

I just got news that my friend (I’ll call him Jon) was admitted to Hospice care. Jon is transitioning to the next experience.

Jon has been battling brain cancer for 4 years. Jon knows about Adversity.

Jon is the most charismatic dude I’ve ever met. The guy had flair that came from a mixture of confidence, competence, and personality.

When I first met Jon he was a gourmet chef in Napa Valley. He was a showman. A food showman. I never gave a shit about food, but when Jon would talk, I found myself paying attention to every little detail about food that he rapped on about.

He had great showmanship with food, but one of the things that made him so interesting, is that he was also a great teacher. He made a subject I found boring, cooking, into something interesting. I loved hearing Jon talk about food (Use grapeseed oil, not olive oil! – when cooking steaks).

He taught a food and wine class every weekend.

I took my Mom to one of his classes for Mother’s Day one year. It was the best Mother’s Day gift I’ve ever gotten Mom. Maybe the best gift I ever got her. It was such a cool thing to see this guy so in his element.

I met Jon through work, we were employed at the same winery. Eventually Jon moved on to other employment. I expected to see him become a famous Chef, like the ones on the TV. I imagined he’d have his own restaurants and cookware and pots with his name on it.

Life had other plans.

Jon was diagnosed with brain cancer several months after my accident. One day my buddy showed me a picture on Facebook of this guy in a hospital bed with a horseshoe sized scar on top of his shaved head.

The guy in the picture looked lost. My buddy said, “That’s Jon.”

The look on Jon’s face reminded me of what I felt like when I was in the hospital. I visited him in the hospital the next day. He was surprised to see me. We hadn’t spoken since he left the winery. It had been two years.

I hung out with Jon and tried to listen as best I could. He was going through serious Adversity. The good news was, the doctors had caught the cancer early. They had successfully removed a golf ball sized tumor from his head. His future looked bright.

I attempted to impart some of the thoughts that had helped me during my struggle. I encouraged him to start writing. I dunno. Maybe I shouldn’t have said anything and just shut up and listened. I couldn’t fathom the battle that Jon was in.

I visited him a few days later and this time I brought him a box of See’s chocolate candies. He seemed to like them. Jon was stronger than when I’d seen him before. I could see Jon’s charisma attempting to burst through the trauma of the surgery.

Unfortunately I never spoke with Jon again. I meant to but I didn’t.

Time passed. Jon left the hospital, then eventually returned to work part time. I kept up with him through a few texts and word on the grapevine. He worked when his health would permit him to.

I’m sure his work provided a welcomed distraction.  He loved cooking.  I doubt he ever thought of it as work.

But the news always returned that Jon was back in the hospital having another surgery or round of cancer treatment. It was brutal just to get the news of his struggle. I couldn’t imagine being the guy going through it.

Everyone was pulling for Jon. I remember there was a charity dinner held at the winery he worked at when he got diagnosed with cancer. The winery was raising money to help pay for Jon’s medical expenses.

I didn’t want to go to the dinner because it was on the weekend and it was wintertime. I wanted to go skiing.

I called up the phone number where the tickets to the dinner were being sold and I asked if I could just give them some money instead of buying a ticket. The woman on the phone was relieved that I just wanted to send money. She said the dinner was sold out but people kept trying to buy tickets.

I heard later that the charity dinner was so over sold that they were worried about getting shut down by the fire department. Apparently the fire department let them slide because they knew purpose of the event.

That’s the kind of impact Jon had on anyone that met him. There weren’t a shit ton of people at the event because Jon had cancer. There were a shit ton of people at the event because Jon had this magnetic personality that people couldn’t help but be attracted to.

Jon battled cancer. He didn’t give up.

He married his long time girlfriend, which I know made him immensely happy.

And, he taught people. There isn’t anyone that knows him, that can’t use him as motivation. If anyone that knows Jon is battling Adversity, they can pause for a moment, think of Jon, and realize that their situation isn’t as bad as they think it is, and they must persevere.

I often think of Jon when I’m bitching and moaning and life is difficult. I think of Jon and I think that I need to shut up and stop complaining. I think of Jon and I am reminded of how grateful I am to take a simple walk with my dog and enjoy the breeze.

I think of Jon and I think about how I’ve got a lot of work to do to be a better human being.
I’m sad I won’t be able to visit Jon in Hospice. I moved away from Napa to the East Coast and cannot make the trip.

I love that dude. He’s an inspiration.

I will miss Jon. I know he is going to a good place.

Be well brother.

Year End Book Review for my homies.

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Hello Wonderful People of the Internet!

How are you? Did you survive all the holiday treats? I did not. All I have been eating is cake and chocolate and sugar…

But I have also been working. Not much but a little. I promised you, my dear reader, that I’d publish my year end book review… ON TIME for once. And here it is…

The Serpent of Venice – Christopher Moore – fiction

Christopher Moore is a great literary re-cycler. He takes old stories, puts his comedic spin on it, and repackages it as a new story. Serpent is a blend of Othello and The Merchant of Venice and Moore mixes in some of his favorite characters from his fantastic book Fool. I enjoy Moore’s style. The dialogue in his books is always great.

Moore also has the rare talent of comedic writing. It’s hard to be funny in writing. It’s even more difficult to switch from comedy to drama, then back again. This is something Moore does well. I enjoyed this book.

Red Notice: A True Story of High Finance, Murder, and One Man’s Fight for Justice – Bill Browder – non

I took an unexpected detour into the subject of modern Russia. This book by Bill Browder, tells the fascinating story of how a guy from the Midwest United States goes on to become the largest foreign investor in Russia.

With great risks come great rewards. At first, Browder’s Hermitage Fund made huge gains investing during the time that Russia’s economy took its first steps from communism to capitalism. Then Browder found himself on the wrong side of Putin’s graces. Going against Putin is not a fun endeavor. Browder had to shut down his fund. He was banned from Russia. Innocent people were killed.

Putin is a gangster and this is one of the many tales that illuminate the power of the man who controls Russia

Once Upon A Time In Russia – Ben Mezrich – non

Mezrich tells the story of the rise and fall of Boris Berezovsky, and a few of the other Russian Oligarchs. When Russia changed from communism to capitalism, the vast majority of the country’s wealth fell into the hands of a few people, the Oligarchs. Life was swell for Berezovsky during the Yeltsin years when he had the government on his side.

Once Putin came to power, Berezovsky, a former Kremlin insider, found himself on the outside looking in. Then he started publicly criticizing Putin. Needless to say, that’s not a smart move. Berezovsky quickly fell from power, fortune, and had to flee Russia.

This is another sad story that portrays the wildness following the Soviet Union’s collapse and another example of someone going against Putin—and losing.

Born To Run – Christopher McDougall – non

This book is fantastic. It read more like a novel than a non-fiction. McDougall tells the story of the Tarahumara of Northern Mexico, the world’s greatest endurance runners. The Tarahumara live in the Copper Canyons which are similar to the Grand Canyon. The terrain is rugged, vast, and unforgiving. The Tarahumara thrive there and run vast distances as a part of daily life.

McDougall also weaves in many stories of endurance running throughout the ages. He argues that humans were born to run. That is what makes us so unique. He convinced me.

My favorite line is “We don’t stop running because we get old. We get old because we stop running.”

This is a wonderful book.

The Martian – Andy Weir – fiction

The story of how The Martian was written is almost as interesting as the book itself. Weir went to great lengths to get the science of the book correct. You can listen to James Altucher’s podcast with Weir where they discuss this in more detail. In short, he’d post chapters of the book on his website and his readers would correct him if he messed up a particular physics problem… or whatever.

So, here’s the idea: Astronaut gets stranded on Mars through unfortunate events. He uses his smarts to stay alive. Then all of Earth bands together to try and save stranded astronaut.

Weir writing style is entertaining and informative. His main character uses comedy and sarcasm in between the drama of staying alive. This is a wonderful and original story.

Of A Happy Life – Seneca – non

This was my first time reading Seneca. I wouldn’t even call Of A Happy Life a book. It’s more of an essay. It had zero impact on me. It wasn’t bad, it just wasn’t good. I can’t really remember much about it. I guess there is reason why, when people talk about Seneca, they usually mention his other works.

When Things Fall Apart – Pema Chodron – non

A friend of mine, a guy a greatly respect, sort of a mentor, recommended this book to me. At the time he was going through tremendous adversity. He’s a smart and determined guy. I knew he’d handle the adversity and be a better person for it.

My friend is also a good person to talk to about books. He’s the one that gave me one of my favorite books Endurance: Shackleton’s Incredible Voyage by Alfred Lansing. When he mentions books he likes I pay attention.

I found When Things Fall Apart to be kinda slow and wishy washy. There were some good parts about making meditation accessible for the average person, which I liked. But in general I didn’t get much out of the book.

Sometimes the way a book impacts you depends a lot on where you are in your life, at the moment you read it. Maybe that’s why this book didn’t do much for me.

Fooled By Randomness – Nassim Taleb – non

I’ve been meaning to read some of Taleb’s work for a while. I’ve followed him on Twitter for a few years and I listened to the podcast he did with James Altucher.

Fooled By Randomness has some brilliant ideas. Some of which I couldn’t follow because I’m not smart enough. Some of them I got. It gave me a new way of looking at things. You can navigate life safely if you understand how to deal with probabilities. Most people don’t. It wasn’t the easiest to read. The writing doesn’t flow like a great novel. It’s more academic.

I liked the book and I recommend it. I’ll be reading more of Taleb’s work. If you’re interested in finance you need to read this book. If not, then it’s ok if you don’t, but you probably should.

The Ultimate Sales Letter – Dan Kennedy – non

I think it’s important for everyone to have some level of sales skills. We all need to be our own mini-brands. It makes sense doesn’t it? Of course it does. Corporations are downsizing and no should work for the government. So we all need to learn how to work for ourselves—in whatever capacity we can find.

And to work for yourself you need to learn to sell. Dan Kennedy will teach you how. Listen to what this guy has to say. He is one of the smartest marketers around. Kennedy breaks it down in an easy to understand language. He spent his entire career educating people on marketing and sales.

You’ll learn a lot from reading this book. But, you’ll learn a lot from reading any of Kennedy’s books. So pick up the first one you can find.

Market Wizards – Jack Schwager – non

If you study finance for more than three days, you will here at least five people suggest that you read Market Wizards. Market Wizards is a series of interviews Schwager conducts with the top financial traders of the day. Which is sometime in the late 1980’s.

Some of the interviews are dry and kinda boring. But if you like investing and finance you’ll love ‘em. A few of the interviews are deep and insightful. The ideas in these few interviews are applicable to many areas of life outside of finance.

It’s a thick book, but I blew threw it faster than I thought I would. I also read it just after I read Fooled By Randomness and I began to think that maybe, many of these successful traders were simply lucky.

The Ultimate Marketing Plan – Dan Kennedy – non

Remember how I told you a little higher on the page how you can learn a lot from Dan Kennedy? Yes? Good.

Well, I learned a lot from reading The Ultimate Sales Letter so I decided to read some more Kennedy. This book is also jam-packed with useful information. I recommend reading books like this over going to business school.

You’ll get a better education and a real ROI for Kennedy’s ideas. I got the book, when I signed up for his offer at the end of The Ultimate Sales Letter. It only cost $20 and I got a ton of useful information and this book. I recommend it if you ever have aspirations of working for yourself.

And so…

That wraps up my Reading List for 2015. I think I read about 25 books or so. I hope to do better next year.

I attempted to read The Essays of Montaigne. I’m still working on it. It’s slow going. I’ll let you know if I finish it.

And naturally, I want to know what you think. Have you read any of the books on my Reading List? If so what did you think? Did you read a book that rocked your world? If so, what was it?

I’m always looking for that book that will make me shake when I read it.

Have a Happy New Year. And thanks for reading my blog!

A Massive Amount of Free Learning

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Hello Beautiful Peoples of the Internet!

It is I, the lazy blogger.

No I was not dead, only lazy. And I’ve neglected this blog and my 2 or 3 readers for too long.

I’m sorry!

I want to make it up to you. So I’m gonna give you some important stuff for FREE. And because it is free, you won’t value or use it. Because no one values free stuff.

Now, let’s go on.

What could I give you that is valuable and free? Knowledge and learning. In this case it will be a shit-ton of stuff to learn.

You’ve heard me say this before. The internet has brought a world of learning to the masses. College is obsolete. You can learn way more by reading and doing.

Onward.

Better Than University

I’ve learned a lot by reading the internet and I thought I’d give you a list of great resources to learn from. So here it is:

MIT OpenCourseWare. Don’t pay to go to college. Go to MIT for free online.

Seriously.

The chances of your college curriculum being better than MIT’s is low. Check this out. The chance of it being a better value than MIT OpenCourseWare is exactly zero.

If that isn’t good enough for you then here, go to Duke’s free online learning.

When I was researching Duke’s free learning I came across Cousera.  It includes Duke and a bunch of other stuff, so it has to be even better right?

Hot Damn!  Is that a good start or what?

I hope you’re not still mad at me for neglecting you, my dear reader, for over 2 months.  I feel bad about it.

I really do.

Okay, so now that you have some knowledge about how the world works… what do you need to do? You need to put it to work.

How do you do that?  Well my friend, you need to learn how to sell.

And the internet is one of the best places to learn how to sell.

Learn How To Earn A Buck

I highly recommend reading The Boron Letters. Actually, you need to print them out first, then read them. Gary Halbert, maybe the greatest copywriter ever, went to prison.  These are letters he wrote to his son from behind bars.

They’re entertaining and informative.

Next you need to read both of Claude Hopkins’ books Scientific Advertising and My Life in Advertising.

Now that you’ve got the foundation of sales in writing, you need to learn how it is applied online. There are many great places to learn copywriting. Here are just a few of the better ones in no particular order:

Kopywriting Kourse: Sign up for Neville’s emails. You’ll learn a ton and they’re funny.

I Will Teach You To Be Rich: Ramit Sethi is a master copywriter. He also has a ton of high quality free content. Sign up for his emails.

Stansberry Reseach: Pay attention to these emails, they sell, sell, sell. Then they sell some more. Analyze how they push the psychological buttons of the prospect. If you can write even a fraction as good as these guys, you will do well.

Well, now that you learned a bunch of stuff, then you learn how to sell it, you’ve made a bunch of money and now you want to relax. What do you want to do when you relax? Obviously you want to read some more, right?

Right??

A World of Reading

Well Project Gutenburg.org is a great place to go. This site has a tremendous catalog of public domain books you can download. I recommend starting with The Count of Monte Cristo if you haven’t read it yet. And if you like Project Gutenburg, why don’t you send them a small donation so they can keep the lights on?

That’d be nice of you.

Ok, here’s a crazy idea. This resource will give you access to a ton of books for free. And, not just old public domain books. This resource has old and new, and I’ve heard they even have digital books although I’ve never tried this.

And here it is: Your Local Public Library.

Stunning reveal, right?

Well it gets better.

These days you can go to your local library’s website and search through their inventory and request books. They pull the books and have them waiting for you to pick up.

Which is great because you don’t have to waste your time walking around a dusty old library, searching and trying to figure out what the heck the Dewey Decimal System is.

You can also tell the website where to send the book. If you have a library branch close to your house you can have it sent there. If it’s easier to pick up the branch that is on your way to work you can pick it up there.

The local library system gets even better if it’s connected with other local systems.

When I lived in Napa, CA, I’d never go to the Napa County Library website, I’d go to the SNAP website. SNAP is Solano Napa Area Partners. It was 3 or 4 neighboring counties that all shared books. This system had way more books than just the Napa County system.

And I’d get all the books for free.

Unfortunately not all county libraries are hooked up with their neighbors. Right now I live in Durham, North Carolina. Durham County Library isn’t hooked up with any of the surrounding county libraries. And the Durham County Library inventory of books is shockingly bad. Boohoo.

I miss the days of SNAP.

YouTube

Sometimes it’s better to see a demonstration than to read about it. A great place to learn by watching others is YouTube. You can learn all types of stuff on YouTube.

I needed to change the headlight in my car one day. The dealership said they would gladly do it for $100. I said, “Oh hell no.”

I needed to learn how to change the lightbulb in the headlamp of my Subaru so I watched this video. And BAM! I was able to change my lightbulb. I changed both headlights. Cost? $12 for 2 headlights. And some bruised knuckles and a bit of aggravation. It was worth it.

Audio

I’ve mentioned this before. Podcasts are a great way to learn. I often listen to podcasts when I’m cooking food. I can’t read because I’m busy choppin’ and stirrin’… but I can listen and still learn. And podcasts are also free.

Twitter

How can you learn stuff on Twitter? Well, what are you interested in? Pick the top 10 or 15 people in that field and follow them on Twitter. You are bound to learn something from those top performers.

Whew!

That is a lot of learning. If you learned all that stuff you are a genius. I would like to meet you and say hello. I’m impressed with your work ethic.

You know, that was a lot. You should be good to go for a while now. But if you think that is not enough and you still need free learning, well—go find it yourself.

Sheesh. That’s the best I can do for now.

What more do you want? Heck, you even read this blog post for free.

And, as always, thanks for reading.
P.S. I should be getting out my Semi-Annual Book Report out on time this year. Look for it at the end of the year.

Elevate Coffee to another level. By taking it down a notch.

This stuff elevates the coffee experience.

This stuff elevates the coffee experience.

I start every day with two large cups of black coffee. Therefore, I start everyday with a smile due to the hot brew.

I think that coffee taken black and in moderation is good for you. It seems there is a new article every day stating some health benefit of drinking coffee. I like to think that coffee is part of my healthy lifestyle.

Naturally, as a health nut, I’m always looking for some little trick or tweak that I can incorporate into my day, to be healthier. When I started to hear of a way to make coffee healthier, I paid attention.

I started hearing about putting MCT oil in coffee. Then I heard about adding grass-fed butter to your coffee. Then maybe you were supposed to blend the two together and put it in the coffee. I dunno. I heard these recommendations while listening to the Joe Rogan podcast.

I was confused. Then I found out that MCT oil, which stands for Medium Chain Triglycerides, is simply coconut oil. I’d never used coconut oil before but I figured it wouldn’t be too hard to find.

And you know what? It wasn’t. I found some in my local grocery store. I bought a jar, brought it home and decided to give it a shot.

It’s super easy to make your coffee with coconut oil. Just make your coffee the exact same way you always have except put a spoonful of coconut oil into your cup before you pour in the hot coffee.

And Presto! That’s it, you just took your coffee up a notch.

You might be thinking, “Eww. Why would I want my coffee to taste like coconuts?” That’s a fair question and that’s what I thought at first too. It turns out that coconut oil is tasteless.

It’s weird but true.

The coffee tastes the same, it just looks like there is an oil slick in the coffee.

When I tried coffee like this the first time I thought, “What’s the big deal?”

After drinking coffee with coconut oil for a week I think I figured it out. The coconut oil makes the caffeine come on slower. Instead of the caffeine hitting you like a train… or a punch in the face, it slowly, gently comes on. I guess the coconut oil slows down the absorption of caffeine.

As you know, I’m not a scientist, but this is what it feels like to me.

The “coffee feeling” comes on slower and seems to last longer. I also feel “coffee satisfied” much longer than without using the coconut oil. After drinking coffee like this for a week the strangest thing happened.

I was no longer reaching for that second cup of coffee.

I’ve always drank two large cups of coffee throughout the morning. Using the coconut oil, I found that that second cup was too much. Now I just drink one large cup of coffee in the morning.

Adding coconut oil to your coffee makes a subtle but profound difference. The coconut oil optimizes the coffee experience by moderating the rate of caffeine absorption.

Adding coconut oil doesn’t make your coffee taste different, it makes your coffee feel different. And the texture is a little oily as well.

You should try adding some coconut oil to your coffee.

And here’s why.

It’s one of those low-downside to potentially large upside situations. The jar of coconut oil only costs a couple of bucks. If you don’t like the new coffee after trying it, quit. If you do like it, you have set yourself up for a lifetime of healthiness and coffeed happiness.

P.S. I’d love to hear from someone that has tried coconut oil in coffee or grass fed butter in coffee—or both. What do you think? Has it changed the way you drink coffee or did you switch back to your old way? Let me know.  I’m trying to learn more about this.

Drink Up. 9 Reasons NOT to Age wine.

Wine is meant for consuming.

Wine is meant for consuming.

I want to save the good stuff to drink when I’m with family and friends.

And that can be a problem.

Wine enthusiasts like me, will build up large cellars of awesome wine. This wine can sit for years and sometimes decades while the owner waits for the perfect occasion to open it.

While the owner of this wine collection is waiting some undesirable stuff can happen.

The wine can go bad.

Even stored under perfect conditions, wine can still go bad. Like everything, wine has an expiration date. The problem is no one really knows when that is. Some wines can last for decades, others only a year or two.

And that’s a great place to start my list: The 9 reasons NOT to age wine.

  1. Wine doesn’t last forever.

It’s a tragedy to find someone with a large old wine collection, only to find that many of the great bottles are past their prime and should be poured down the drain. It makes me cry.

2. Usual Suspects

Another tragedy that can happen to great wine that you are waiting for the perfect occasion to drink is that some unauthorized person can take the wine. Family members are a usual culprit.

Mom, who is going to a dinner party with her friends from work, and she doesn’t know Yellow Tail from Bordeaux, just took the first bottle of wine came across in you cellar. She figures you have a lot of wine, you won’t miss one bottle, plus she’ll go to the grocery store to replace it if you want.

She leaves the cellar with a bottle that says Cabernet Sauvignon. What she doesn’t know is that that was your last bottle of the 2002 vintage from your favorite small winery in Napa Valley. The bottle has the word Rutherford on it. You can’t replace the wine, it’s sold out, plus the current vintage sells for well over $150.

Thanks Mom.

3. 3-5% of all corks are faulty. Corks have one of the highest failure rates in any industry. That’s just the way it is. It doesn’t matter if you buy California, Bordeaux, or Brunello, corks all around the world have a high failure rate. And the best wines are still sealed with corks.

You could hold on to a wine for a long time, pull it out, and the wine is garbage because the cork failed years ago.

4. Natural disasters. A house fire, hurricane, earthquake (I lived in Napa when the quake hit and lost some good wine), any random shit you can’t predict, can happen. And then you don’t get to drink your awesome wine.Why do you want to start collecting and aging wine?

5. I don’t know what the bullet point here is but consider this…

I worked with one of the best winemakers in Napa Valley. One of his bottles of wine sells for $250. He tells me to drink all California wine 8 years from the vintage. His customers buy his wine and say they will store it for 20 years. They are making a mistake.

6. Burglary.

I know this sounds out there, but someone could break into your house. While they are trying to steal your expensive shit, they see your wine cooler and snag a bottle on the way out the door. I’ve heard of this happening.

7. Moving.

You might move. It’s very difficult to move a collection of wine. Most people move in the warmer months. When you move the wine it’s easy for it to get too hot. The wine gets ruined in the move. I’ve experienced this many times.

8. You didn’t buy enough of the wine.

I only hold on to a wine if I have at least 6 bottles but preferably 12. That way you can drink it over the years so you can see when it’s at its peak. If you only have 1 or 2 bottles, go ahead and drink ‘em.

9. You could die.

If you get in a car accident or whatever and you leave this earth… Well, you can’t take your wine with you. You will have saved the wine and not had the pleasure of drinking it. That’s sad.

You might want to consider if you even should age wine. Most people (me included) should not. It’s not as good an idea as it seems.

“Serious Wine Collectors” hate to hear this. Ok, I understand we all have our deeply held beliefs. I’ve had “Serious Wine Collectors” tell me that my winemaker friend in Napa who makes great wine and suggests you drink it within 8 years of vintage, is an idiot.

Ok. Not likely, but whatever. This post isn’t for “Serious Wine Collectors.” We all have our hobbies and I’m not trying to shit on anyone’s hobby.

I’m just trying to help people avoid the mistakes I’ve made and mistakes I’ve seen a lot of others make as well. When I’ve had a beautiful bottle of wine that I’ve held for a long time get ruined I always think “Damn! I should’ve drank that wine on a Tuesday night while eating Ramen noodles and watching a movie, instead of holding it for the perfect occasion.”

It’s always a better use of the wine to drink it, than to hold it and it goes bad. But that’s just my opinion that I developed the hard way.

There are all sorts of bad random things that can happen if you hold on to a good bottle for too long.

I’m not trying to talk down to people aging wine. I’ve experienced the downside and the limited upside. The vast majority of the time it’s not worth it to hold wine for long periods.

Wine is meant to be consumed with family and friends. Do that instead of storing it forever.

What do you think, am I crazy?

I want to hear from Wine Enthusiasts.  What do you love about aging wine?  Has anything unfortunate ever happened to your favorite bottles that you’ve held on to?

Love me or hate me but please don’t ignore me.  Let me hear your thoughts in the Comments section.

Adult Braces are… Awesome??

I had braces with rubber bands as an adult.  One time the girls talked me into wearing the pink, blue, and green rubber bands.

I had braces with rubber bands as an adult. One time the girls talked me into wearing the pink, blue, and green rubber bands.

Braces are painful. The metal rubs into your mouth causing sores.

Food gets caught up in the braces. Your tongue gets sore trying to get the bits and pieces out. Brushing your teeth is difficult. And flossing? Flossing your teeth with braces is like knitting with a slobbery wet needle and thread and slobbery knitting fingers.

Now for the fun part: you’re supposed to engage in this pleasant experience every night before you go to bed. It is important to do this.

Every kid that gets braces at least has several friends going through the same experience. Misery loves company. You have to do what your parents say. Getting braces as a kid ain’t so bad, except that every kid that has to get braces thinks it’s the end of the world.

You know what I’m talking about, eh? You had them when you were a kid and remember the pain and embarrassment? How you’re lips would stick out to cover the metal and you wouldn’t smile because it hurt too much?  Oh, the good ‘ol days.

Well, getting braces as an adult is different animal. Especially if you had braces as a kid and you know already know what you’re getting into.

As an adult you know most of the things about braces that kids do, plus you have a few more things to worry about.

Adults know how expensive (!) braces are. That new car or fancy vacation you were thinking about? That’s going to have to wait. Then there’s the added discomfort of “everybody’s gonna stare at you” because you’re not a kid and all your friends aren’t getting braces as well.

No, you are the only adult you know that is getting braces. If you’re a dude, women aren’t going to want to touch you. If you’re a woman, dudes will think at least once or maybe even twice, but they will still touch you.

It’s easy to decide not to get braces as an adult. It’s always easier to do nothing. Adults get stuck in their ways.

They say something like, “I’m already in my X’s (X = 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, etc.). I’ve looked this way my whole life.” Plus they’re expensive. And all the other reasons. Blah.

It’s easy to not get braces.

If braces suck so bad why would you get them if you’re an adult (if you’re a kid you get them because Mom and Dad said so)? You get braces as an adult because having straight teeth is awesome.

I respect the heck out of adults that take the plunge and sign up for the misery of getting braces.

When you grow up with crooked teeth you can’t imagine what it’s like to have straight teeth. Smiling tends to be something you do only if your Mom forces you to.Once braces align your crooked teeth, you know how much better your bite feels with your new alignment.

You gain a bit of confidence or–you lose a bit of self consciousness. Thumbs up either way.

It’s easier to smile. Smiling is awesome. Smiling makes you feel better. Braces, once you go through a year or two of pain, will make you feel better.

I’ve never met someone that got braces as an adult that said, “I did the wrong thing. I shouldn’t have gotten braces.” Adults love having straight teeth. We all complain about the process, but we all love the end result.

After the avalanche I was curious to see what my teeth looked like. I’d smashed my jaw in several places. When I woke up in the hospital my jaw was wired shut. Because of the wires holding my jaw shut I couldn’t see my teeth.

The good news was that I still had teeth.

Once the wires were removed it was easy to see that my teeth had moved around. My jaw didn’t close like normal. I knew I needed braces.

I hated braces as a kid. The trauma from the avalanche had tempered my anger and frustrations. After recovering from those injuries, something like braces is no big deal.

I still wasn’t stoked to get braces. I decided to view it as another surgery or rehabilitation I had to do to recover. I signed up and got some metal on my teeth.

I didn’t smile much before I got braces for the second time. After my braces were removed I try to smile as much as possible. I’m not good at it and sometimes I think I come off as creepy. Sometimes I try too hard to smile.

Deciding to get braces as an adult was not a fun experience. As an adult it’s easy to decide against getting braces. The good thing is that as an adult you can understand the benefits of straight teeth and an easy smile better than you can as a child.

You will look back on this decision and realize it’s was one of the best you ever made.

P.S. I got my adult braces from Dr. Cooke in Napa, CA. I can’t recommend her and her staff enough.

PPS. If you got braces as an adult let me know how it made you feel in the Comments section below. I bet once they were taken off you loved the way you looked, right?  It was totally worth all the pain, misery, and expense, no?